Choosing a therapist is an important decision. A little research, a few conversations, and paying attention to your own reactions can make the process much easier.

There is a slightly unfortunate irony about looking for a therapist: we're often expected to make …

What recurring arguments can tell us about connection, conflict, and what each partner may really be trying to say.

One of the things couples often tell me in a first session is, “We keep having the same argument.” The details may change—it might be money this …

Anxiety can feel like a mind that simply refuses to switch off. But what if it isn't just a problem to eliminate? Understanding what anxiety is trying to protect—and learning when worry has stopped being useful—can help us develop a very different relationship …

Sometimes we know exactly what we're doing—and even know it isn't helping—but somehow we keep doing it anyway. Understanding why can be one of the most useful parts of therapy.

One of the questions I've heard repeatedly over more than 20 years of doing therapy is …

Workplace stress isn't always about workload. Difficult managers, challenging colleagues, unclear expectations and office politics can gradually affect confidence and well-being. Therapy can help us understand our reactions, develop practical strategies and …

Burnout doesn't always look like falling apart. Sometimes it looks like a capable person continuing to function while becoming increasingly depleted. Understanding what keeps us pushing can be an important part of finding our way back.

One of the interesting …

Adult ADHD is often less about knowing what to do than being able to reliably do it. Understanding that difference can change the way we approach motivation, organization, emotions—and ourselves.

One of the things that strikes me when working with adults with ADHD …

Why can saying no produce so much guilt? Boundaries aren't simply about becoming more assertive. Understanding why other people's disappointment feels so difficult can help us build relationships in which our own needs have room too.

“Just set a boundary” has …

Veterans, civilians, and the sometimes-overlooked wounds of conscience, values and trust

When people think about psychological injuries associated with military service, they usually think about PTSD. But there is another idea that I think deserves much more …